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Not a happy Snoweh Creature ...

I'm updating this at home. 'Why are you at home?' I hear you yell. 'why are you not seeing your wonderful Four year old son on his Birthday' I hear you scream.



For those that don't know, my eldest son, Daniel is four today. & I was really looking forward to going to see him on his birthday.
So I texted Chris and asked if it was ok for me to come round this evening to see Daniel & give him his present. The answer I got was that I was welcome to come over of course, But Daniel is having a little birthday tea and Chris' brother (+ wife) & Chris' Parents are going to be there. So actually I'm not welcome over in the slightest.

This I am rather annoyed and upset about and the one question that plauges me is why does that fucking wanker (David, Chris' brother) get to see my son on his birthday and I don't.

It also pains me to think that I'm not even invited to my son's birthday tea. which makes me feel quite quite shite.

It makes me so annoyed & wound up that I feel physically sick when I think about it. I've been looking forward to seeing Daniel on his birthday all fucking week. Now I'm just pissed off.

Comments

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serena_lesley
Mar. 22nd, 2002 12:21 pm (UTC)
Yeah, in your place I'd be pissed off too. So pissed off that I'd take the invitation literally, go round there anyway, ignore Chris's family pointedly if they're hostile, and be there for Daniel, who I'm sure would love to see his mother and cares little for family issues. They have no right to think they can intimidate you and keep you away.

*hugs*
goddesssnoweh
Mar. 22nd, 2002 12:22 pm (UTC)
the atmosphear would be palpable, i'm not about to inflict that on Daniel on his birthday, or on Andrew for that matter
(Anonymous)
Mar. 22nd, 2002 08:02 pm (UTC)
Gotta say I agree with you there

Reverend Hatty
serena_lesley
Mar. 22nd, 2002 12:26 pm (UTC)
Kids seldom notice these things unless it's aimed at them.. not until they are of the age where they've learned social etiquette. He'd probably be fine, if you decide to go :)
goddesssnoweh
Mar. 22nd, 2002 12:32 pm (UTC)
Actually you would be very surprised what kids do pick up on. They've had too much tension in thier lives already.

I know he picks up on it because it makes him miserable and depressed. That's not a good thing for a four year old to be feeling
serena_lesley
Mar. 22nd, 2002 12:35 pm (UTC)
Aw poor Daniel. Well I'm sure that's a good reason to not go round, regardless of how it'd make you feel, and that people will see that you have his best interests in mind and aren't just trying to avoid a difficult situation. :)
goddesssnoweh
Mar. 22nd, 2002 12:39 pm (UTC)
Fk off
serena_lesley
Mar. 22nd, 2002 12:47 pm (UTC)
Hm?????
serena_lesley
Mar. 22nd, 2002 01:01 pm (UTC)
'The one question that plauges me is why does that fucking wanker (David, Chris' brother) get to see my son on his birthday and i don't.'
'I've been looking forward to seeing Daniel on his birthday all fucking week.'

I was trying to help u see, originally, that u don't have to miss out cos of someone else. I'm sorry if you took it the wrong way, it's your decision and I respect that, as I pointed out in the last response.
goddesssnoweh
Mar. 23rd, 2002 03:13 am (UTC)
Actually there are situations that i feel it's better to miss out, even if it's costly to one's self. Yes i feel i did do the right thing by my children, and yes they would have picked up on any tension in the air, maybe it's a trait only known to my kids but they are fairly emotionally sensitive when it comes to their parents. I was not about to inflict that level of stress on them, especially not Daniel on his birthday.

I'm sorry if you took it the wrong way, it's your decision and I respect that Quite obviously this is not the case, as i wasn't the only one to read the 'avoidance of a difficult situation' comment to be condescending and more than just slightly jugemental.
serena_lesley
Mar. 23rd, 2002 04:06 am (UTC)
The 'avoidance of a difficult situation' comes from me acknowledging that your post could in fact be read wrongly, but I felt that you had expressed yourself clearly and that the casual reader wouldn't actually come to that conclusion. It's a compliment to your way of explaining this that I put this. I haven't put ANY insults, ANY judgments, and in future will steer clear of putting any responses at all unless I feel that the meaning is clear enough not to be misinterpreted by the reader, for whatever reason.
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